Behold what manner of love the Father has bestowed on us, that we should be called children of God! -1 John 3:1
Holding my newborn son in my arms, I can see how important my role is in shaping his image of Father God. In the Bible, God primarily reveals Himself as Father. When my son Joseph sees me and how I live my life, will he see Father God? Will I give him the proper image of the Father?
I think this reality is a reason that Satan’s attack on men seems particularly fierce – because earthly fathers reflect the Father image of God to their children. Of course, both mom and dad play a vital role in reflecting God’s image to their children. This is not meant to undermine the role of mom or say that mom doesn’t get attacked. My mom was the paramount spiritual influence in my life and I personally saw her get attacked by the enemy.
That said, a father wound is a profound wound. If dad was an angry man, criticized you or rejected you, chances are you struggle to see Father God differently. To move past this wound, it is important to see God for who He really is.
There have been times in my life where I felt like God had rejected me. I felt unwanted by God. It seemed like God had rejected the prayers of love I had offered to Him. The sting of rejection hurts, even if it is perceived rejection and not based in reality. One time I complained that I felt like God had not fathered me the way I wanted Him to. That very next day, I woke up sensing God’s love and presence and I heard a song in my spirit. The song is called Father’s Eyes, sung by Mark Schultz.
Part of the song says this:
He’s on the edge of giving up tonight
Feeling like he’s wasted the best days of his life
Afraid he’ll never be the man he thought that he could be
And when he looks inside he’s so ashamed of who he sees
But in his Father’s eyes
He is a son of glory
The image of a strong and mighty King
In his Father’s eyes
There’s more left in the story
And he’s fighting hard to hold back tears of pride
If only he could see himself tonight
In his Father’s eyes
In my perception, I doubted myself and I doubted my Father. But He sees me as a son of glory, a strong and mighty man of God. The seasons of disappointment I have experienced were not rejection, but spiritual training in sonship.
This is where the tension lies. We may have a perception of God that is, in fact, not reality. Our perception is based on the fallenness of our earthly experience. We see God through the filter of our hurts and wounds. To combat these lies, we have to renew our minds with truth. We have to embrace the reality of who He is and who we are in Him.
There have been many times where God has shown His love to me. Looking back, I see how hard it was for me to truly embrace that love. It wasn’t until I began to take the truth of God’s word and speak it over my life, meditate on it, declare it and confess it, that something began to change inside of me. God was showing me His love, but I had to internalize it through the power of His word. In doing this, transformation took place.
Israel had this same problem. Due to so many years in bondage, they saw themselves as less than they really were. Despite God’s mighty acts on their behalf, they saw their God through eyes of bondage rather than freedom. God had to take them through a wilderness experience to show them who He was and to raise them up according to who they really were in Him. He transformed them from a slave-minded, faithless bunch to a mighty army able to go in and conquer giants and possess the Promised Land.
My wife and I attended church in Virginia for a couple of years while I was in law school. We helped out at the Welcome booth, serving drinks and snacks to the people. One Sunday, I sang to myself while I walked to get some supplies from the supply room. I’m not a professional, but I have a pretty good singing voice. One of the guys said to me something like, “don’t quit your day job.” Of course, it was meant as a joke. I responded to him by looking him the face and continuing to sing. He said to me, “you’ve had a lot of rejection in your life, haven’t you?” I said, “yes, sir” and kept moving.
I thought it was interesting for him to say that, but I think it made me realize how God has actually used rejection to form me spiritually. It has forced me to listen to the voice of my Father, to walk according to what He says about me and to follow the leading of His Spirit regardless of the opinions of others.
I may have experienced rejection in my life, but I know that I am accepted by my Father in heaven. I am His beloved son. I am not perfect, but I know that He is well-pleased with me (see Mark 1:11). I know that God’s hand of blessing is on my life. I know that He is proud of me. I have had to learn to just keep singing, no matter what others say about me. What God says is the only thing that really matters.
What is your image of the Father? Others may have rejected you, but God loves you and He accepts you just the way you are. He is proud of you, not because you are perfect, but because you are His child.
I am proud of my son, Joseph. He’s only 4 weeks old and has accomplished basically nothing in life except poopy diapers and lots of eating and sleeping. But he’s gained about 1 pound and grown about a 1/4 inch. I’m proud of that 1 pound and 1/4 inch. I’m proud of him simply because he is my son. He doesn’t have to do anything for me to smile down on him and feel such love for him. It is the same with our Father in heaven. He is looking down on you now with love, pride and joy because you are His child.